Self-Awareness, our Half-Term Focus

After looking at Compassion towards others last term, the Round Square focus for this half term is Self-Awareness. Miss De Miranda presented an assembly to launch it for students and staff and encourage them to think about what it means to them.

She opened by explaining, “You need to take the time to be kind to yourself, often we pay more attention to negative events rather than positive ones that occur in our lives. It’s the bad things that grab our attention, stick in our memories, and influences our decisions. This can affect our behaviour, decisions, and even our relationships”.

Miss De then went on to explain that self-compassion and this term’s Round Square Discovery, self-awareness encourages us to focus on learning from our mistakes and to remind ourselves of the positives in our lives. Whilst we may rarely think about it, it can improve our relationships with others, life satisfaction and what we’re able to achieve. But what does it mean in practice? Self-awareness has two parts:

  1. Internal self-awareness means we can clearly see our own values, passions, thoughts, feelings and emotions.
  2. External self-awareness is clearly seeing how others see us. People who are externally self-aware tend to be better leaders.

Miss De explained, “self-Awareness is possibly one of the most important parts of character development. All of us should focus on as it allows you to shape the person you wish to become. The ability to take an honest look at our life without attachment to it being right or wrong”.

She continued, “Being self-aware is when you don’t blame the external circumstances, it’s about persevering on trying to understand different perspectives and to learn from our mistakes. A Roman philosopher once said, ‘A person who is not aware that he is doing anything wrong has no desire to be put right’”.

In a bid to encourage students to open up and learn from others, Miss De asked members of the school’s leadership team to share the piece of advice that they’d give their younger selves, their responses show how they reflect on their strengths, areas for development and what they may have done differently. This took self-awareness and confidence for them to share so openly and demonstrates how they are all great role models for our students.

It revealed their differences, but also their humility in sharing their reflections with the students:

“I wish through my strengths I had developed more confidence and self-belief at a younger age, instead of focusing more on what I couldn’t do.” Miss De Miranda

“I wish I had realised earlier in life that my best is good enough. That, I, am good enough; I have spent too much time always trying to strive for perfection. Sometimes, that ‘fear’ is all you need to stop you in your tracks and prevent you from starting anything at all”, Mrs Marland

“Self- awareness is appreciating your own talents and uniqueness, focusing on your areas for development and learning to ignore others who may wish to do you down”, Mr Hayden

“If I’d listened to my heart more often than my head, I’d have a few more scars but each one would tell a truly amazing story”, Mr Culpan

“I wish I’d had the self-awareness earlier on that I had the power to make my own opportunities, rather than hoping they would just come along”, Mr Harrow

“Looking back, I wish I had made more decisions based on rational thought rather than my emotions”, Mr McKeown

Miss De concluded the assembly by setting students a challenge, “Make time to reflect, ask yourself the right questions, such as why you think, say and do certain things; then ask yourself what you can do differently to become even better.

Remember, you have the power…

  • It’s your life.
  • You make the choices.
  • Your emotions.
  • You make the decisions on how to act.
  • You have strengths.
  • You have weaknesses.
  • You have success.
  • You have failure.
  • You make mistakes

Be the person YOU want to be, life should always be a journey of self-discovery”.

We look forward to hearing from students about what they learn about themselves and how they intend to use such insights to help them improve what they do and how they do it.